Found the issue, despite being subbed to the core mod it wasn't downloading. TY

@Chicken Kickin Fun both of the MORE versions are submods, so you need the base mod - men of the realm or ladies of the realm above them in the load order.

hmmm not appearing in my decisions but the women of the realm option is

@Chicken Kickin Fun works with everything

works with agot?

@Beorhthere Appleby yes should be fine unless paradox changes the code completely. They're both add_courtier = scope:whoever, landed or unlanded.
I have not tested unlanded very much, but a fellow wanderer asked the same thing on the ladies of the realm mod and later verified it was working as intended.
So I guess you get "followers" added, when you add them to your "court."

Does this work for Unlanded Adventurers?

Both a game rule (for new games) and a decision (for active games) has been added, if you would like to disable the AI from using the decision to invite.