Fun Fact: if he stays there long enough, he'll have Squatter's Rights. Meaning, you cannot force him to leave.

Seduce him

Seduce them both.

-Invite more people round

-Buy a box of condoms, open the packets, spit inside then dump them under her bed where she will find them later when cleaning. He won't be staying alone in the flat after that, if at all.

Stop paying your part of the rent.

I think it would be good to write out a list of your thoughts on the situation such as the frequency of these stays and how you feel about him staying there without anyone around. This way you can better organize your thoughts and feelings. Then have a conversation about these points and have a healthy talk about boundaries.

Tell the landlord. Most leases only allow someone to stay for only 14 days.

Originally posted by Lupa:

I think it would be good to write out a list of your thoughts on the situation such as the frequency of these stays and how you feel about him staying there without anyone around. This way you can better organize your thoughts and feelings. Then have a conversation about these points and have a healthy talk about boundaries.

Okay this is the actually good advice

What is your lease say about subletting? Usually there's a clause that doesn't allow anyone in the apartment other than the name on the lease.

In state of Connecticut a person is considered a tenant if a person stays in the apartment for 14 days out of 6 months. The landlord reserves the right to either raise rent or request the original tenant on the lease to add the new tenant. Failure to comply, both you and the subletter will have to leave (eviction).

In your specific case, contacting the landlord would be the best chance. Inform them that you did not authorize a subletter to be in your apartment. In many cases, landlords are frown upon to sublet as it could violate your lease if it has a clause of no subletting permitted.

Originally posted by Quillithe:

Originally posted by Lupa:

I think it would be good to write out a list of your thoughts on the situation such as the frequency of these stays and how you feel about him staying there without anyone around. This way you can better organize your thoughts and feelings. Then have a conversation about these points and have a healthy talk about boundaries.

Okay this is the actually good advice

It's generally what I do when I get really frustrated. I feel like all my thoughts and feelings get tangled up in my head so making a list helps unravel and organize all of it. I get a better understand of what all is frustrating me and then work to tackle them individually or make a plan such as how to talk things out with someone instead of rushing in hotheaded.

Depends if the boyfriend is struggling and has no where else to stay? In which case, just ask them to help out around the house. If they can't afford to pay, they will be more than willing to help. If they are just lazy and leeching, you will still find out and then can address that accordingly.

Originally posted by Quillithe:

Originally posted by Lupa:

I think it would be good to write out a list of your thoughts on the situation such as the frequency of these stays and how you feel about him staying there without anyone around. This way you can better organize your thoughts and feelings. Then have a conversation about these points and have a healthy talk about boundaries.

Okay this is the actually good advice

How is it a good advice? As a tenant she has legal rights to refuse a person that stays over and not paying rent. Landlords usually frown upon that sort of thing. It called sublet.

i think you should bully him until he leaves gaslight him make him paranoid make him so angry hes forced to show his ugly side and then tell everyone its not okay and you're ssccared and fearing for your life you can start slow with phrases like "yo you kinda smell" and then increase the intensity like coming back from classes "i just saw a hobo outside and he reminded me so much of you" or walk around naked one day on purspose and then label him a sex pest for seeing you naked and tell everyone hes a sex pest

Originally posted by whole9yard:

Originally posted by Quillithe:

Okay this is the actually good advice

How is it a good advice? As a tenant she has legal rights to refuse a person that stays over and not paying rent. Landlords usually frown upon that sort of thing. It called sublet.

It's more like trying to talk out a problem rather then rushing towards something that could strain a relationship. You want to get along with your roommate but also don't want to be a doormat. We don't know OPs situation or the full story of all that is going on.

Miss, this is not the kitchen.