One thing people need to understand about extremely kind, nice, and loving people, is that their other side is just as extreme. It's the hell they survive that makes them gentle. Don't mistake their self-control for weakness. The beast in them is sleeping, not dead.
Kindness is not typically associated with strength but, it’s always the strongest people who are able to be the kindest. they don’t feel the need to use defences, or put up barriers to protect themselves.
They offer genuine kindness because they feel safe with who they are.

There is more difference between a zebra and a horse, than there is between me and the furry creature.