May–December Relationships

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HeavyGoat 10 hours ago

I fail to see the the point of all the stigma (and at times, even hate) towards age gaps within relationships. No, not the tiny ones within three, those are negligibly small, and are pretty common. I mean as in doubled ages with tens of years of difference, or the like.

Yes, you may not be within exact same development and relatability… but the same's the deal with hetero relationships? As men and women often don't go through similar progressions in life at all. For the part of 'exploitation' I see it just on level with saying that it's an issue with a female likely having less testesterone (and thus strength) than a male in a relationship, as an age gap isn't worse than that, if even an issue at all. If anything, it lets them double up on the perspectives of life.

Therefore, I feel that it's an irrational prejudice. It seems unfounded when comparing to existing frameworks. These frameworks work for some, should let them be. Even personally, I could, in fact, see myself with someone that's much older.

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HeavyGoat 10 hours ago

TL;DR: Age is just a number, but within compatibility, not eligibility.

salamander 10 hours ago

as long as both people are legal consenting adults and there is no abuse/power at play, then they are free to do whatever they want.

GetUrAssToMars 10 hours ago

I think 10 is about as far as I would go.

In the context of a long term relationship theres a point where its going to be a health and life stage impracticability when the age gap between partners starts extending into decades of difference.

Love is love, however. Its true we can't control how it manifests sometimes.

Darth Invader 10 hours ago

The problem is, it's one-directional. 99% of the time it's the 23 year-old cheerleader hooking up with a 75 year-old coach, not the other way around.

That tells me there's something other than love involved, because we all know if Bill Belichick had spent his last 50 years as a manager at Walmart, he wouldn't be hooking up with Jordan whats-her-name.

But I digress. I think it's creepy.

OoOoOoooOOoOoorgle 10 hours ago

I don't take issue with it in general, either, but...

The problem with relationships where any disproportion is at play (age, class, income, education, etc) is that it becomes much more likely that at least one of the partners is being exploited, scaling with the magnitude of disproportion.

When a 40-year-old dates a 20-year-old, one or both parties might automatically exploit the other without even realizing, due to the sheer gap in their frames of reference.

And when you consider a case where exploitation IS an intended outcome of one of the participants, the gap makes it much easier for the abuser to succeed un-checked.

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HeavyGoat 10 hours ago

Originally posted by Darth Invader:
The problem is, it's one-directional. 99% of the time it's the 23 year-old cheerleader hooking up with a 75 year-old coach, not the other way around.

That tells me there's something other than love involved, because we all know if Bill Belichick had spent his last 50 years as a manager at Walmart, he wouldn't be hooking up with Jordan whats-her-name.

But I digress. I think it's creepy.

Sure, and that can also often be the case. The gold diggers, and the creepy ones.

But at least for me, a difference is my preference. This is something I hold pretty openly. No, I'm not a forum troll; that is really my own, personal preference for a relationship. The requirement is someone who feels the same to younger ages — which I must admit, is a bit a rare find for being now, or even to be found in a couple of years.

Emurinus 10 hours ago

From what I've noticed, larger age gaps are often formed less from true love and more out of security/finances. Not only that, but there's a larger number of older-man younger-woman relationships than the reverse, which doesn't help the stigma.

Doesn't mean these kinds of relationships can't have genuine love involved, but it's just much less likely, and more prone to exploitation. personally, as long as both parties are legal, consenting adults then a larger age gap is fine, though I will always consider it unorthodox if the gap exceeds 10 years.

HeavyGoat 10 hours ago

Originally posted by Emurinus:
From what I've noticed, larger age gaps are often formed less from true love and more out of security/finances. Not only that, but there's a larger number of older-man younger-woman relationships than the reverse, which doesn't help the stigma.

Doesn't mean these kinds of relationships can't have genuine love involved, but it's just much less likely, and more prone to exploitation. personally, as long as both parties are legal, consenting adults then a larger age gap is fine, though I will always consider it unorthodox if the gap exceeds 10 years.

I'm just feeling sorry for those it actually works for, that they get the stigma issue just for falling under the age gap umbrella.

And aswell as I'm ranting about the difficulty it has been laying out for me, in my life.

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Vinz Clortho 10 hours ago

At this point in my life if I'm going to have a family I would rather it be my own family and not be an addendum to someone else's. I don't know the statistics but from experience I can tell you that women over 30 have kids. I would rather date a 21 year old and have a family with her and be called a pervert than be with a 40 year old who is as sad as me with 3 kids to boot. Plus when I die she can have my money and still be young enough to marry someone else.

Slavic Moms Against Wokeness 9 hours ago

Originally posted by Darth Invader:
The problem is, it's one-directional. 99% of the time it's the 23 year-old cheerleader hooking up with a 75 year-old coach, not the other way around.

That tells me there's something other than love involved, because we all know if Bill Belichick had spent his last 50 years as a manager at Walmart, he wouldn't be hooking up with Jordan whats-her-name.

But I digress. I think it's creepy.

“Milfs” do hook up and sometimes be in a relationship with younger guys from 20 to 40, depending on the age of the woman. But for that to happen, the guy needs to be tall and intimidating at least somewhat.

No matter what they tell you, women will always like strong, tall men . The question is how many extra steps they take to like those men and what is the form of their attraction. Either way, can’t really tell much on this form as it’s run by censors and should really be closed down

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Darth Invader 9 hours ago

Originally posted by Kiss Your Slavic Man:
Originally posted by Darth Invader:
The problem is, it's one-directional. 99% of the time it's the 23 year-old cheerleader hooking up with a 75 year-old coach, not the other way around.

That tells me there's something other than love involved, because we all know if Bill Belichick had spent his last 50 years as a manager at Walmart, he wouldn't be hooking up with Jordan whats-her-name.

But I digress. I think it's creepy.
“Milfs” do hook up and sometimes be in a relationship with younger guys from 20 to 40, depending on the age of the woman. But for that to happen, the guy needs to be tall and intimidating at least somewhat.

No matter what they tell you, women will always like strong, tall men . The question is how many extra steps they take to like those men and what is the form of their attraction. Either way, can’t really tell much on this form as it’s run by censors and should really be closed down

I dunno man, things are really weird these days. Granted, I'm a little older, but I've always been 6'2", 200 pounds, in good shape. I exercise everyday, eat kinda healthy, and I don't EVER get laid.

At least not in the last 20 years or so. I used to get lucky a lot, back when all you had to do was make a girl laugh. It's just not the same anymore. Women resent men these days. I'm just waiting for the day I get chewed out for holding a door open for a girl at the convenience store.

I blame social media and jealousy.

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