UNIVERSITY - not sure what i was expecting

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Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 7:50am

i went to university expecting to make friends and have a lot of fun. I was wrong. First it is one of these universities that bans all form of smoking and boozing. So there is like no sports bars or nothing...

Everyone is really anti social and just awkward. I cannot make small talk or ask people questions without them just staring or going on with their life. I have a roommate I had not talk to in a week because he is just that anti social and I just feel so weirded out I basically live with someone I cant even talk to because he is either jamming on his laptop or raging at his games. he just ignores me if I make small talk.

god this is sad when the only people i can talk to is my parents but god what am I supposed to do if everyone is just so anti social and if you dont have friends from high school, ur screwed.

i am a bit salty now since I spent all that money to be stuck in the middle of nowhere university and I cannot even make proper friends because people lack proper social skills.

I will just end this little rant with WHAT KIND OF WORLD DO I FINALLY MEET PEOPLE MORE AWKWARD AND ANTI SOCIAL THAN ME!? I mean seriously, my whole life I struggled with talking to people and even have a disability that makes that especially difficult. since when do people just has it worse than I do. In what world is this where I am the one engaging with others and talking.

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Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... 1 Sep @ 7:55am

make friends with the janitor

steven1mac 1 Sep @ 7:57am

There is no bars on campus, but you can always check places outside of campus for activities.

xDDD 1 Sep @ 7:59am

Well they probably are more awkward and anti-social than you. You are sadly in one of the generations that was permanently scarred by the COVID nonsense, probably during some of the most important social years of your life.

Just gotta put yourself out there. Be the initiator. It's hard and it sucks but you gotta put yourself out there and try to meet people. See if someone wants to grab lunch with you, or study with you, etc etc etc.
It may help if you find and join some kind of club.

Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 8:02am

Originally posted by xDDD:
Well they probably are more awkward and anti-social than you. You are sadly in one of the generations that was permanently scarred by the COVID nonsense, probably during some of the most important social years of your life.

Just gotta put yourself out there. Be the initiator. It's hard and it sucks but you gotta put yourself out there and try to meet people. See if someone wants to grab lunch with you, or study with you, etc etc etc.
It may help if you find and join some kind of club.

i am in 3 different clubs but normally people just wants to socialize on those club days and does not talk much in the group chats or discord. feel like an idiot for posting funny memes or trying to get people to talk with no responses or random reactions to said messages.

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xDDD 1 Sep @ 8:04am

Originally posted by im coming for you...:
i am in 3 different clubs but normally people just wants to socialize on those club days and does not talk much in the group chats or discord.

Oh... Man...
Well give it time. How long have you been there? It takes time to build familiarity.

And, again, be the initiator. Reach out to them and ask if they want to hang out.

salamander 1 Sep @ 8:05am

Originally posted by im coming for you...:
i am in 3 different clubs but normally people just wants to socialize on those club days and does not talk much in the group chats or discord. feel like an idiot for posting funny memes or trying to get people to talk with no responses or random reactions to said messages.

keep trying. lot of social zombies these days who are unsure how to interact with others in public, a curse of the increasing reliance on the interwebz. but there still exists peoples who would love to be your friend, go to bars and hang out with you and such.

Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 8:06am

Originally posted by xDDD:
Originally posted by im coming for you...:
i am in 3 different clubs but normally people just wants to socialize on those club days and does not talk much in the group chats or discord.
Oh... Man...
Well give it time. How long have you been there? It takes time to build familiarity.

And, again, be the initiator. Reach out to them and ask if they want to hang out.

for almost 4 weeks with little to no progress it seems.

cherry cola 🌸 1 Sep @ 8:06am

You went to uni for all the wrong reasons? What's your major, social science?

Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 8:08am

Originally posted by cherry cola 🌸:
You went to uni for all the wrong reasons? What's your major, social science?

history

salamander 1 Sep @ 8:10am

Originally posted by im coming for you...:
history

cool study focus, pal of mine went to uni for history as well. love hearing him gab about such things, you become a great storyteller with such an education.

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cherry cola 🌸 1 Sep @ 8:13am

Originally posted by im coming for you...:
Originally posted by cherry cola 🌸:
You went to uni for all the wrong reasons? What's your major, social science?
history

Sounds like an useless major but at least it's not social science.

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Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 8:13am

Originally posted by salamander:
Originally posted by im coming for you...:
history

cool study focus, pal of mine went to uni for history as well. love hearing him gab about such things, you become a great storyteller with such an education.

yep, one of the only things I am passionate about too!

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smokerob79 1 Sep @ 8:13am

dry campus?!?!?!?.....make it wet again!!!

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Candy Borowski 1 Sep @ 8:16am

Originally posted by cherry cola 🌸:
Originally posted by im coming for you...:
history
Sounds like an useless major but at least it's not social science.

i would take something else but I know i would just rage quit anything having to do with computers or engineering especially since i dont know even basic math let alone calculus or trig or chemistry. I was actually barred from chemistry in high school due to a mental disability.

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xDDD 1 Sep @ 8:18am

Originally posted by im coming for you...:
Originally posted by cherry cola 🌸:
Sounds like an useless major but at least it's not social science.
i would take something else but I know i would just rage quit anything having to do with computers or engineering especially since i dont know even basic math let alone calculus or trig or chemistry. I was actually barred from chemistry in high school due to a mental disability.

Just be careful, OP.
I am a big fan of history but you have to know what you are getting yourself into and you have to form professional connections or have a plan of some kind. Historians aren't in massive demand in a world where we try to erase our own history.

If you are still with it in a year or two aggressively seek out internships or co-ops or stuff like that. You NEED to get some experience and connections under your belt.

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