Same reason men stay in bad situations: low self-esteem coupled with either an economic inability to leave (dependent on the partner) or fear of consequences for leaving (escalating abuse or--if children are involved--harm coming to the children).

Battered woman syndrome is a pretty thoroughly-researched phenomenon, but the TL;DR: is above. If you think you're worthless/have been convinced no one will ever love you--or if the only way you keep a roof over your head/food on the table is to stay with a douchebag--or he's convinced you he'll hurt you worse/kill you/harm your kids if you try to leave, you're unlikely to leave.

As far as sexual infidelity goes, see the above minus the physical abuse aspect.

Women are not different creatures from men in any respect apart from plumbing, really. We all break the same way, and it's always the fault of the person doing the breaking.

Edit: And I just saw "a result of them choosing to live with those kinds of men." This victim-blaming garbage is pathetic. You have no way of knowing an abuser will be an abuser until the abuse starts, and by then there may be any number of factors making leaving difficult--chief among them douchebag "I'm just asking questions--why do women choose to be with these men" narratives that blame the victim over the perpetrator.

This line of thinking proves you wouldn't be a better option as a partner.

Some women like men and not all men are scummy, I know OT makes that hard to believe but it is true.

everyone loves a bad boy. leather jacket, slicked back hair, cool shades. i wish i was chris redfield being thrown around like a sack of taters by albert wesker

Attachment behavior is shaped by our primary caregivers when we grow up. So in basic terms, both men and women can have mommy and daddy issues which is reflected in romantic partner selection.

specify bad men and scummy men
cause it could be he's an ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ to others but he's an angel to their girl so they just wave it off, some women like a man who's a bit of a ♥♥♥♥ same way some men like women who are a bit meaner or crazy
If not then it can be part of the emotional cycle of abuse, scared of what will happen if you leave or believing you won't or don't deserve anyone better uwu

Stockholm syndrome. In addition, abusers carefully hide their true nature and can initially behave like ideal partners. They use love bombing - showering their victim with gifts, attention, and apologies.

In my sisters case, abused by dad and brother in younger years so she naturally gravitated towards a person like them in an attempt to fix them and reconcile her own trauma, my perspective of it of course. Healthy people don't tend to get with narcissists/psychos

Originally posted by An Irate Walrus:

Same reason men stay in bad situations: low self-esteem coupled with either an economic inability to leave (dependent on the partner) or fear of consequences for leaving (escalating abuse or--if children are involved--harm coming to the children).

Battered woman syndrome is a pretty thoroughly-researched phenomenon, but the TL;DR: is above. If you think you're worthless/have been convinced no one will ever love you--or if the only way you keep a roof over your head/food on the table is to stay with a douchebag--or he's convinced you he'll hurt you worse/kill you/harm your kids if you try to leave, you're unlikely to leave.

As far as sexual infidelity goes, see the above minus the physical abuse aspect.

Women are not different creatures from men in any respect apart from plumbing, really. We all break the same way, and it's always the fault of the person doing the breaking.

Edit: And I just saw "a result of them choosing to live with those kinds of men." This victim-blaming garbage is pathetic. You have no way of knowing an abuser will be an abuser until the abuse starts, and by then there may be any number of factors making leaving difficult--chief among them douchebag "I'm just asking questions--why do women choose to be with these men" narratives that blame the victim over the perpetrator.

This line of thinking proves you wouldn't be a better option as a partner.

Why do we ride roller coasters?

Bad men make them feel safe from a bad, bad world. Nice guys get friend zoned because they don't have the badass brute in them

Originally posted by Big&Black:

Bad men make them feel safe from a bad, bad world. Nice guys get friend zoned because they don't have the badass brute in them

Ironic when most of the time the ones abusing the women get their asses kicked by the quote nice guy who isn't a badass brute lol

The reality is one is a ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ and the other is a good guy, i have seen macho and supposedly tough guys get destroyed and made to cry by people who you would not think were capable, whats on the surface is an illusion dont piss off the nice person there is a reason they are so comfortable being that way to people and being perceived as weak

"Dangerous" men = Strong men = safe environment and protection
Is probably the sub conscious thought process in women.

Originally posted by 1000 Subtick stare:

"Dangerous" men = Strong men = safe environment and protection
Is probably the sub conscious thought process in women.

This and OP forgot to specify what he meant with bad men, if it's about tate then gold diggers are the answer if its about shapiro then idk I guess she shares his religion.

Originally posted by 1000 Subtick stare:

"Dangerous" men = Strong men = safe environment and protection
Is probably the sub conscious thought process in women.

You want a guy that will keep you safe and make you feel secure and protected, there are good kind men that dont act like ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ to people who can protect you, the macho and violent ones that project that image aren't the ones to do that because of their ego and how they will treat you.

Granted its hard to tell at first which one a person is, i think its why so many women end up falling for that illusion of the big bad dude who brags about how tough they are or how many fights they have been in or had and doesn't give a crap about anyone. Its fake and peacocking, just a image they like to see themselves as and present