Originally posted by ʜɪɢʜꜱᴏᴄɪᴇᴛᴇᴀ:

Remember asking yourself as a kid, “what do I want to be when I grow up?” or “why do adults always seem stressed?” over bills, careers and life “skills” they were never taught?

being an adult is to realise dreams and hopes are for children and fools and take what life gives you and to be living in constant stress is the normal

Can't say I do.

I mean, we can only hope there's hope for you.

Originally posted by lailaamell:

Originally posted by ʜɪɢʜꜱᴏᴄɪᴇᴛᴇᴀ:

Remember asking yourself as a kid, “what do I want to be when I grow up?” or “why do adults always seem stressed?” over bills, careers and life “skills” they were never taught?

being an adult is to realise dreams and hopes are for children and fools and take what life gives you and to be living in constant stress is the normal

Yeah, is just realizing the punchline was life itself all along. Dreams didn’t disappear..they just got taxed, scheduled, and buried under utility bills.

Originally posted by An Irate Walrus:

I mean, we can only hope there's hope for you.

Hope’s funny that way. Optional but apparently still mandatory for spectators.

Originally posted by lailaamell:

Originally posted by ʜɪɢʜꜱᴏᴄɪᴇᴛᴇᴀ:

Remember asking yourself as a kid, “what do I want to be when I grow up?” or “why do adults always seem stressed?” over bills, careers and life “skills” they were never taught?

being an adult is to realise dreams and hopes are for children and fools and take what life gives you and to be living in constant stress is the normal

That's not being an adult, that's just giving up and accepting mediocrity.

Originally posted by Reaper:

Originally posted by lailaamell:

being an adult is to realise dreams and hopes are for children and fools and take what life gives you and to be living in constant stress is the normal

That's not being an adult, that's just giving up and accepting mediocrity.

its growing up not all can be great and not all will be accepting reality after all hope and dreams dont pay the bills

Maybe.
The real question is, should we bother fixing it?

Your coming of age topics are full of teenage angst. Youll grow out of it, just try to relax a bit and stop comparing your life to others. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Originally posted by lailaamell:

Originally posted by Reaper:

That's not being an adult, that's just giving up and accepting mediocrity.

its growing up not all can be great and not all will be accepting reality after all hope and dreams dont pay the bills

First of all, learn to use comma.

Second of all, I'm not sure about what exact problems you have. As children we tend to think that achieving our goals will be easy, until we are hit with the harsh reality of life. In the end it's still your choice if you are going to employ a victim mindset and give up, or if you are going to go the extra mile to get where you want to be despite everything else.

Originally posted by lailaamell:

Originally posted by Reaper:

That's not being an adult, that's just giving up and accepting mediocrity.

its growing up not all can be great and not all will be accepting reality after all hope and dreams dont pay the bills

There's a distinction between accepting the reality of having to work in order to provide for oneself and any partners/family/pets we might have and just giving up on dreams entirely because life is difficult.

One of those things constitutes pragmatism--the other a sophomoric nihilism supporting a victim complex.

I have a pretty solid career that I both love and hate--sometimes on the same day. When I was a kid, I dreamed of being a famous author. My career is not "famous author," but it pays the mortgage and other bills with enough left over to fund my midlife crisis of full tattoo sleeves and gaming habit.

So I go to campus. I teach. I grade. I damage my liver as a method of coping with the Sisyphean nature of my market sector.

And I'm still working on a novel. I've published some small works--and someday I'll get a publisher for the big one (I refuse the Amazon self-publishing route; I do have *some* pride). I'll probably never make that Harry Potter money, nor have the name recognition of a Stephen King, but someday I'm going to see my name on the spine of a novel in a major bookstore.

That's the gulf. Pragmatism tells me I'm unlikely to be "famous." But basic self-confidence and hope tell me I still need to push to find out where my ceiling actually is. The only alternative is to just give up, and if I'm going to do that, I might as well just lay down and die.

Originally posted by An Irate Walrus:

Originally posted by lailaamell:

its growing up not all can be great and not all will be accepting reality after all hope and dreams dont pay the bills

There's a distinction between accepting the reality of having to work in order to provide for oneself and any partners/family/pets we might have and just giving up on dreams entirely because life is difficult.

One of those things constitutes pragmatism--the other a sophomoric nihilism supporting a victim complex.

I have a pretty solid career that I both love and hate--sometimes on the same day. When I was a kid, I dreamed of being a famous author. My career is not "famous author," but it pays the mortgage and other bills with enough left over to fund my midlife crisis of full tattoo sleeves and gaming habit.

So I go to campus. I teach. I grade. I damage my liver as a method of coping with the Sisyphean nature of my market sector.

And I'm still working on a novel. I've published some small works--and someday I'll get a publisher for the big one (I refuse the Amazon self-publishing route; I do have *some* pride). I'll probably never make that Harry Potter money, nor have the name recognition of a Stephen King, but someday I'm going to see my name on the spine of a novel in a major bookstore.

That's the gulf. Pragmatism tells me I'm unlikely to be "famous." But basic self-confidence and hope tell me I still need to push to find out where my ceiling actually is. The only alternative is to just give up, and if I'm going to do that, I might as well just lay down and die.

give this man a true

These failures merely reflect the product of the society and its structures. This has been enabled through the DNA of its foundation; you cannot fix the consequences of its own creation.

Originally posted by ʜɪɢʜꜱᴏᴄɪᴇᴛᴇᴀ:

Failed adults: are they fixable?
Remember asking yourself as a kid, “what do I want to be when I grow up?” or “why do adults always seem stressed?” over bills, careers and life “skills” they were never taught?

Failed adults are mostly failed kids so its too late for fixing.

But at least they became adults, nowadays we have people in their 30ies or even 40ies who still have the character and education of a kid...