one thing is to stop classifying people as good for you or bad for you. extracting yourself from a bad situation may have required this, but it's important to conceptualize this as a tactic you undertook in a problem situation.

if you stand on the outsides of people trying to guess what they're like before you really have them in your life you'll edge out a lot of worthwhile people.

the same is generally true of putting up a false front; it becomes another barrier to being seen as you are. people might be scared away when they see the real person, after they've become your friend, and that's sad to experience.

I generally don't let new people in anymore. People can't be trusted and I have too much to lose.

Originally posted by Abaddon the Despoiler:

I generally don't let new people in anymore. People can't be trusted and I have too much to lose.

Being bitten perpetually for a decade or more can do that, and currently I am not entirely convinced there's more than one person in my life.

Originally posted by o:

one thing is to stop classifying people as good for you or bad for you. extracting yourself from a bad situation may have required this, but it's important to conceptualize this as a tactic you undertook in a problem situation.

if you stand on the outsides of people trying to guess what they're like before you really have them in your life you'll edge out a lot of worthwhile people.

the same is generally true of putting up a false front; it becomes another barrier to being seen as you are. people might be scared away when they see the real person, after they've become your friend, and that's sad to experience.

you kind of hit the nail on the head there, my defenses have been necessary to a point but now trusting anybody outside of my family is really hard, part of me does indeed see all humans as inherently evil and my view of humans in general is maybe a little negative, so i find myself stuck.

Originally posted by Edward Von Worms:

Originally posted by o:

one thing is to stop classifying people as good for you or bad for you. extracting yourself from a bad situation may have required this, but it's important to conceptualize this as a tactic you undertook in a problem situation.

if you stand on the outsides of people trying to guess what they're like before you really have them in your life you'll edge out a lot of worthwhile people.

the same is generally true of putting up a false front; it becomes another barrier to being seen as you are. people might be scared away when they see the real person, after they've become your friend, and that's sad to experience.

you kind of hit the nail on the head there, my defenses have been necessary to a point but now trusting anybody outside of my family is really hard, part of me does indeed see all humans as inherently evil and my view of humans in general is maybe a little negative, so i find myself stuck.

Humans aren't evil, your mind is just going to magnify your interactions with the ones that are and call attention to how close the average person really is to these behaviors.

You may hate every living human, but that doesn't make humans evil.

You filter them out in life. If they’re bad leave them and if they’re good keep them.

My party is full.

Good people are extremely rare. Most people aren't even decent when the opportunity arises.

Originally posted by Majinken:

My party is full.

My circles are all on away mode.

I guess that's the same thing.

Its hard to tell who is good and who is not tbh when first meeting people, if they are helpful and kind towards you and always seem to be there for you when you need them then you stay around the people who are like that

Originally posted by Edward Von Worms:

you kind of hit the nail on the head there, my defenses have been necessary to a point but now trusting anybody outside of my family is really hard, part of me does indeed see all humans as inherently evil and my view of humans in general is maybe a little negative, so i find myself stuck.

Is it not trusting anybody, or strict and rigid formality and decorum? It may help to frame the situation to your advantage.

I generally regard the "Law of Attraction" as pseudo-scientific snake oil, however there may be utility in this situation.

Like Attracts Like, Nature Abhors a Vacuum: Removing negativity from your life creates space for positivity.

Physical Attractiveness: Physical appearance plays a significant role in initial attraction, as people often perceive attractive individuals more favorably. There is also something, perhaps, regarding styles and aesthetics of subcultures.

Proximity: The physical closeness of individuals increases the likelihood of attraction, as people are more likely to form relationships with those they encounter frequently. Also, shared experiences can create stronger bonds.

It may be painful to "put yourself out there", but the objectives are to develop social skills through trial and error, and better develop a social survival instinct and discernment about the people nearby. It is inadvisable to shut out all dissenting opinions, and bury yourself in an echo chamber. You're current objective is to locate your "clique", where you "fit in".

Cliques are like hobbies, don't be afraid to explore new ones.

Suddenly, Avicii's "Wake Me Up" comes to mind.

Sorry, my original message was pretty inconsiderate and thinking about more I realize that there have been times in my life where I lived in entire cities full of bad people. You should consider the possibility that it is actually not you who is the problem. It goes without saying but you may consider moving.

One city I lived in there was a serial killer on the loose killing prostitutes and dumping them in the river for kids to find at the park. I was vandalized in the same city and when I contacted the police they told me it, "wasn't their problem."