"anger is a choice" makes me angry

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jimmy neutron 14 hours ago

it just invalidates how i feel with "just stop being angry". like, OH IM SO SORRY IM ANGRY, HERE LET ME JUST INCREASE MY CORTISOL UPTAKE SPEED, YOU KNOW SOMETHING WE CAN ALL DO NATURALLY! and then we have to talk about "laugh it off" not the song, the saying to people when people are angry, do you just want me to go "WHAT A KNEE SLAPPER" when im angry, is that what you want? it just, doesnt work, ignoring your emotions does nothing and just masks it, and then it comes back worse. or how people say "you can choose not to show your anger" like sure, i could but when i do i feel physicle pain (this is not an exaggeration, i do feel pain in the head and throat) and it becomes extremely difficult to breath and the anger just wells up and turns into angry-sad which is worse and cannot be contained.

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ImSoCool599 14 hours ago

Calm down, just stop being so angry. Be happy

admiral1018 14 hours ago

Anger is a normal emotion, but how you channel and express that emotion is absolutely a choice. You have an obligation as an emotionally mature adult not to express it in an abusive way.

salamander 14 hours ago

yeah, i know what you are saying jimmy neutron. like when you have a "brain blast" and get an amazing idea to save retroville, but sheen or carl says something stupid and it infuriates you. but they just tell you to relax, its all going to be fine.

but its not fine! you save the town on a regular basis! why wont they just listen!?

jimmy neutron 14 hours ago

Originally posted by admiral1018:
Anger is a normal emotion, but how you channel and express that emotion is absolutely a choice. You have an obligation as an emotionally mature adult not to express it in an abusive way.

im never mean about i just cant not contain it when im at home.

admiral1018 14 hours ago

Originally posted by jimmy neutron:
Originally posted by admiral1018:
Anger is a normal emotion, but how you channel and express that emotion is absolutely a choice. You have an obligation as an emotionally mature adult not to express it in an abusive way.
im never mean about i just cant not contain it when im at home.

If you can't contain it in a healthy way, then that's a problem. However, it's a problem that you can fix with some work.

tmwfte 14 hours ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AsppJKTtsc

videomike_Ultimate_Plushie 14 hours ago

It's also just wrong...

Acting in anger is a choice. Having anger is not a choice, it's a primary emotion. Saying dont get angry is like saying stop getting sad.

jimmy neutron 14 hours ago

Originally posted by admiral1018:
Originally posted by jimmy neutron:
im never mean about i just cant not contain it when im at home.

If you can't contain it in a healthy way, then that's a problem. However, it's a problem that you can fix with some work.

i am getting better, i started taking prozac (its an antideppresent) and its getting better

One Shot 14 hours ago

Anger is tiring, I'm just lazy to be angry.

salamander 14 hours ago

Originally posted by jimmy neutron:
i am getting better, i started taking prozac (its an antideppresent) and its getting better

well...it will work, but i do recommend not being on them forever. its going to numb not only negative emotions, but positive ones too. a lot of antidepressants make it hard to feel much of anything in my experience, happy, mad, or sad.

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jimmy neutron 14 hours ago

my anger is mostly directed at technology. that stuff always needs a password and OOPS! somthing went wrong, where not gonna tell you what figure it out! OH NO interent out! OOPS password incorrect

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