What should i do next, about my online relationship?

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76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 12:43am

So, me and my discord gf had some arguments again, but i somehow have infiltrated back into one of her servers, last week, i was there shadowing and just found out that she lied to me about some things.

She stopped spending more of her free time with me, she lied to me about not talking to any other boys (they are her former school mates, i could've agree with this, i just asked her not to get in other online relationships and to not lie me), she kicked me out from all her servers long ago, from all the games we played together, i saw some of her old messages with her friends, telling them that she hates me, she just wait for me to visit her and give her some stuff i have promissed her that i will gift her, once i move in her city, also she was planning about the times that we and her friends would spend there, in the place where i would move and she told her friends there that she's better watching someting or asked them for a walk outside, her 2-3 friends girls and 2-3 boys, all former school mates with her.

The only good reason i didn't just left her, even if she's a hardcore liar and was trying to isolate me or falsely accuse me, is because she spends quite some time with me daily and it feels nice, when a cute girl like her tells me that she loves me, even if is just text and gifs, even if she's allways looking for reasons to fight me, but in last 2-3 days, i don't feel that bad without her sometimes, but i still love her

Is there a way for me to but her on the right track and to make her stop all lies, or what else can you advice me?

What i hope is true, is that she didn't cheat on me with some other dudes, she didn't write anything about it there, at least, where she's speaking things at her hearth content with her friends, also her male former school mates, have some gf's and were only talking about outside activities like going to park or pool or about work and her friends's lovers.

She still seems to love me a bit, but her dishonesty towards me kinda bothers me, since a while, instead of fixing things, she fight me and lies me, but is still adorable, i have no idea what to do, but to follow my hearth xD

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Originally posted by Emperor of Destruction:

Count your blessings you found out before things escalated.

Leave her and her stomping grounds alone.

Do not check in, seek her out, or try to warn others off.

There is no justice, vindication, or reconciliation to be sought.

Walk away.

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76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 12:49am

I don't edit the text, i write here, that if someone have uncertainities about this thing, feel free to check my latest posts, about this topic xD

Zekiran 21 Jul, 2021 @ 12:55am

First, you sound like a manipulator and stalker, so... there's that.

Second, you don't own her, so stop acting like she isn't supposed to be seeing or talking to other people, particularly ones that SHE knows?

Like, dude, get over yourself? You don't need to be around her, and she obviously doesn't want to be around you.

Candyy ♡ 21 Jul, 2021 @ 12:59am

Originally posted by Zekiran:
First, you sound like a manipulator and stalker, so... there's that.

Second, you don't own her, so stop acting like she isn't supposed to be seeing or talking to other people, particularly ones that SHE knows?

Like, dude, get over yourself? You don't need to be around her, and she obviously doesn't want to be around you.

Yeah i agree with this

76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:00am

Originally posted by Zekiran:
First, you sound like a manipulator and stalker, so... there's that.

Second, you don't own her, so stop acting like she isn't supposed to be seeing or talking to other people, particularly ones that SHE knows?

Like, dude, get over yourself? You don't need to be around her, and she obviously doesn't want to be around you.

Indeed, it seems like this, but i have my reasons, to not be betrayed and because i will move there, with no other friends, all alone when she won't be around, i just wanted to make sure that i am loved enough by her, how i love her.

My feelings for her are genuine, even if i use other means to figure out what she's really made of, while she is lying about normal stuff, have her defects too and overusing mines against me.

76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:17am

I don't have the hearth to break up with someone, i allways was hooked on and allways left by them, but would it be there a way that i fake my online death or something, and then be invisible forever, until she unfriend me, 2-3 days or something like this?

Also, i am still unsure if i shall delete my comments on her steam profile, or to let them there until she deletes them herself.

Edit: also, this is the first time in many years, that i really loved a girl, i'm 30 atm.

Edit 2: just theoretically, i still don't have a decision, if i shall go on and love her, move in her town all alone beteween total strangers and make a life for myself there, or to let her be, by fakeing my online death on discord and she'll find someone better.

Last edited by Morning; 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:20am

Q-T_3.14.exe 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:19am

I am not a brain doctor but maybe you should not worry about that much.

Panazois λ 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:19am

Originally posted by Morning:
Originally posted by Zekiran:
First, you sound like a manipulator and stalker, so... there's that.

Second, you don't own her, so stop acting like she isn't supposed to be seeing or talking to other people, particularly ones that SHE knows?

Like, dude, get over yourself? You don't need to be around her, and she obviously doesn't want to be around you.

Indeed, it seems like this, but i have my reasons, to not be betrayed and because i will move there, with no other friends, all alone when she won't be around, i just wanted to make sure that i am loved enough by her, how i love her.

My feelings for her are genuine, even if i use other means to figure out what she's really made of, while she is lying about normal stuff, have her defects too and overusing mines against me.

Just stop man. This is not a genuine feeling. What you are doing is not what a normal person should do. This is not called love. Forcing someone to do something for you is one of the worst possible things you could do, even if it is for their own good. As other said yes you are a manipulator and a stalker. Seems you are a loner as well. How about instead of making relationship online you go out in the world and make relationships there?

Murassa [TR] 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:20am

Discord gf= not a gf at all = not a real relationship

76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:22am

i know, but it hurts and in real life...i don't know, it's been a while, maybe i will be some sort of monster again, maybe i should just wait for my end, alone, playing games and watching anime and netflix with an unhealthy chedule as i did before she hooked me.

Edit: i don't try to control her or something, i ask her not to do, the same as she asked me, but she does what she asked me not to, not really cool from her, i just talk back (is how a conversation works), but i don't have any mean intentions in my doings.

Last edited by Morning; 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:24am

Rick Davenport YT 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:24am

Anyone else think this is REALLY weird?

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ṼṏẌṏḭḊ 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:25am

Originally posted by Rick Davenport YT:
Anyone else think this is REALLY weird?

Yeah.

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↑↑↓↓←→←→BASelect 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:27am

Sounds like you are being catfished/used.

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Emperor of Destruction 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:27am

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76561198402507716 21 Jul, 2021 @ 1:28am

I honestly don't mean any harm, i didn't love in a long time and i totally forgot what o do, but i was betrayed many times by peoples and i just take cautions, even if it makes me seems a little bit like a monster.

In he past decade, my ex'es were just s*x mates, for few months each of them, like 5-6, didn't felt anything special about them so i just let them do as they pleased, but now i am in love again.

I am sorry if it seems too weird.

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