That is unusual. Do you have a screenshot? Note that the head of family/religion can like you but the family/religion dislike you.

Just mouse of their opinion op? It shows everything.

Opinions change based off of event outcomes and based off off trait changes. So the act of a character assuming the role of family head would not specifically make them dislike you.

However, there are plenty of events that would change a characters position, such as making them a religious or family head, and then the narrative of the event that takes place also changes their opinion of you.

Sometimes when characters level up l they gain new traits that put them at odds with you. The proud trait, for example makes characters dislike the ruler -40 points.

One thing you could be conflating is character opinion and family opinion. You could have a character who likes you become family head of a family that hates you, and if the opinion is low enough, then the family will still hate you (but a happy head of family will help)

I'm starting to not like the character and family opinions, they tend to screw up the game more than make it better. I'm also not liking how many events happen at medium level, I hope I can try playing without any events or very few. Once a family turns against you their cities don't produce very well.

Originally posted by Feigro:

One thing you could be conflating is character opinion and family opinion. You could have a character who likes you become family head of a family that hates you, and if the opinion is low enough, then the family will still hate you (but a happy head of family will help)

It might be something like that. What tends to happen is a head of family dies and a new one takes their place and I get a message stating this and that the characters opinion has gone from pleased to upset. Doesn't say families opinion, but characters opinion, which is why I asked why they would change their minds so quick.

As head of the family they now have more negative modifiers than positive ones.

Originally posted by garry619:

Originally posted by Feigro:

One thing you could be conflating is character opinion and family opinion. You could have a character who likes you become family head of a family that hates you, and if the opinion is low enough, then the family will still hate you (but a happy head of family will help)

It might be something like that. What tends to happen is a head of family dies and a new one takes their place and I get a message stating this and that the characters opinion has gone from pleased to upset. Doesn't say families opinion, but characters opinion, which is why I asked why they would change their minds so quick.

I see the misunderstanding, the text in the paranthesis when it says "Their opinion has gone from pleased to upset" - the "their" means the family. It should say something like "Darius has become the head of the Clerics family, their opinion of you has gone from cautious to upset"

It's talking about the family, not the character.