I had an outcast mother, I sent her away. she came back with her baby girl and I let her stay for the night. She fled in the middle of the night and left the baby behind. Said Baby girl just grew up.
As luck will have it, the firstborn son of the clan leader is a young man, still single and of good health. So I think, she became interested in marrying him, because it showed the two rings above her avatar and on the left side is a note, that she wants to become part of the clan. And I want her to stay, she is hard working and earned her keep. But when I click on her avater, both buttons for marrying (the one to stay in the clan after the wedding and the one where they have to go after the wedding) are still grey and therefor inactive. I still tried clicking the one with the staying option, but nothing happened.

So is there now another way to marry them, since the clan leader has to decide? If so, how do I marry them? I could not find it. Otherwise it might be a bug?